▪️◦▹ Similar interests: outdoors, appreciating simple things, good conversation, geopolitics, learning, climate, awareness, social advancement. I have a highly scientific/intellectual background and especially enjoy conversation about many topics.
▪️◦▹ Goals: on social media my goals are making friends and dates. ◦◦◦⥱⥱Physically: I particularly like men with some muscle who are very health conscious. ◦◦◦⥱⥱Sexually: No anal (this is a permanent orientation - not a preference). Mutual masturbation, oral, sensual, passionate. I am a "side." ◦◦◦⥱⥱Traits: Naturally masculine, calm personality, upbeat, non-"tribal." ▪️◦▹ Physical Proximity: To really know each other, a < 2-hour drive proximity from each other's home is my target. However, if you aren't within that zone, I still enjoy meeting people on vacations, and sometimes enjoy chat.
▪️◦▹ Compatibility: My best friendships and relationships have been with men who are calm natured, professional, intelligent, humorous, masculine, and have never immersed themselves in gay "culture." These men, like me, are well-travelled and have experienced many cultures in life. I like progressively minded people, and am often drawn to ethnicities other than mine as I find the cross-cultural interaction dynamic. I'm highly independent and don't care for gay "norms" such as steroid use, tattoos, piercings, and don't even care for drag.
If you have cock/ass pics of yourself posted anywhere, we are not compatible, so please respect my time and target someone else. I consider needing approval of a sex organ picture unhinged beyond comprehension and indicative of a personality conflict.
(The above are key points most want to know).
If I'm someone you'd like to know better, however, it's best to read the more detailed descriptions of attributes interesting to you (or find unclear) by scrolling down below:
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Extended Version (for those who would like to know more)
My Background
Compatibility: I've determined these elements, in order of importance, are what make or break any association I have:
1. Values¹: I have many, but ones I try to focus most on in my life are dignity, modesty, honesty, kindness, gratitude, and wisdom. Honesty includes being true to myself; I am comfortable with my sexual orientation and prefer men who are as well. Being gay has Regarding the dignity attribute, I do not have cock/ass pictures posted anywhere nor ever have. I find it indecent, mindless tribal mirroring, and often symptomatic of insecurity. Scholarly articles I've researched about this phenomenon confirm underlying personality traits I dislike. If you engage in this behavior we are not compatible. My respect is something I value highly and is important to my profession and ambitious life goals. Whatever goes into the never-ending abyss of Internet resurfaces years later when convenient to someone else. Additionally, life has taught me through trials that to lose respect and self-respect is to lose almost everything.
2. Interests: Electronics (I am a Computer Hardware Engineer), outdoors, animals, gym, medicine, science, AGI/ASI, democracy, climate, memorable experiences with others, and more. I have a particular fondness for dogs and the elderly, having spent much time with both during since childhood. I'm curious by nature and study a broad range of topics. There's a good chance we'll have mutual interests if you are also a person who loves life and enjoys learning.
3. Emotional Intelligence: My objective in relationships is to seek the middle ground between emotional and rational mind, listening carefully, fostering bilateral communication, and creating win - win results. I recognize this is not always possible, however, and know how to address that positively. Gratitude and meditation are part of my daily routine, as are appreciating the present moment and maintaining positivity in my life. I select my close friends carefully, which makes my life happier and better supported. Making happy, loyal and mutually supportive friendships (gay and straight) is more important to me than sex.
4. Goals: Other than having and executing overarching major life goals, my goal on social media is to meet men with similarities for friends and dates.
5. Proximity: I have found that distance within a 2-hour driving radius is necessary to cultivate strong relationships. To really know someone, I need to spend significant time with them (know their social circle, too). Information gathered on Internet social sites is extremely limited and subject to misinterpretation. Additionally, as humans, we evolved to need support of others within physical proximity. I've spent much of my life traveling for my career and discovered distinct differences in generalized gay culture within each large (a/2p) city. By enjoying significant time working in different cities, I discovered some have larger percentages of men I identify with than others. I will be relocating to one of my favorites inside the US or Canada within a few years.
Physical, Sexual, and Psychological Preferences
A. Physically & Sexually: I prefer men with some muscle or who are overall healthy; I like gay men of all ethnicities. Since I am asked about sexual practices on dating sites, I will address it here. I have always enjoyed sex as oral-only, cuddling, mutual masturbation and a psychological connection. I am disinterested in anal simply because of my brain's organic structure - it is biology - not a preference. There is a limited view that people are "tops," "bottoms," or "versatile." This excludes an entire category, "sides," who are becoming vocal after years of criticism by other gays that everyone must fit within a flawed behavioral model. The definition of "side" is a homosexual male who does not enjoy anal penetration (giving and receiving) but enjoys engaging in other forms of same sex activity such as fellatio, frottage, and mutual masturbation. I have met many who identify with this. If you cannot relate, however, you must accept without stigma this orientation just as much as you expect to be acknowledged for being gay - because neither are choices. This article from the Guardian regards a man not interested in anal intercourse, reasons not identified, but nevertheless addresses the need for acceptance. If intercourse is something you enjoy, we will not completely relate on a sexual level. B. Psychologically: I look for others who have worked on their interpersonal skills, as illustrated in the diagram referenced in the Short Version above, including being independent and non-tribal. In many cases, unfortunately, I find men affected by internalized homonegativity; I can empathize with this condition but generally find these interactions something I don't want at this stage of my life. Guys with a good sense of humor, calm personality, are humble, and smile a lot particularly get my attention. I prefer gay men who are completely comfortable with their orientation, are naturally masculine, and passionate about providing some value to society.
Other Preferences
➽ I am STD Negative which I intend to maintain but do not consider PrEP necessary for me based on my sexual conduct. I prefer to limit medication in my body, and because much of this $1500/month drug is federally subsidized, I do not wish taxpayers to be unnecessarily burdened. It is unethical some abuse it engaging in risky sex (which will probably cause the virus to morph into a PrEP-resistant form as history has shown with many well-intended drugs abused).
➽ I am not drawn to cosmetics (anabolic steroids, purple hairdo's, excessive tatts and piercings); I find the natural naked human body attractive and am distracted manipulation. ➽ I rarely have any interest in hookups and absolutely no interest in men with sex addiction or who engage in frequent sexual encounters.
➽ I am monogamously oriented.
➽ I do not date guys that have cock/ass pictures posted ANYWHERE on social media.
➽ I do not date guys who incessantly post vanity shots of themselves on sites like Instagram, or traipse in convincing themselves they are gay "superstar models." This need for physical self-validation (often by roid girls) leads to emotional underdevelopment. A balance between appearance, psychology, and intellect are my goals and what I look for in others.
Conclusion
If you find this profile atypical, great! I understand myself and what works for me in interpersonal relationships. I am not interested in impressing others with characteristics like social status, wealth, or vanity. Physical and mental fitness, however, are a lifetime commitment I strive for, and the combination of both in an individual attracts my attention. My objectives are: (1) Providing value to society and (2) Behaving in a manner that preserves my self-respect.
I'd rather have 1 reply from someone compatible than 1000 that are not. I have never wished to be "popular." If you can relate, we have something important in common!
I look forward to meeting compatible men so we can enjoy the fresh outdoors 🌲, travel 🛳, movies 🎥, conversation 🗣 and other things together, being completely relaxed and appreciative of the moments we create! 😊🌈💪
¹If you are interested in exploring your own value system, here is alink you can use.
Here are two of my favorite quotes, one from an influential 14th century Persian poet largely unknown in Western culture who used the pen name "Hafiz," and Jon Kabat-Zinn (an accomplished US professor who focuses on biology and mindfulness).